Many times in our offices and in social activities we find selfish people. Many times we unable to say them that you cant do that favor or thing for them and you end up helping them and favoring them against your own will. This will teach you how to deal with such people and save your time and stress after that.
You should be Confident and Serious :
You have right to say "No" to anyone with whom you don't feel comfortable. You need to understand this. When you take yourself seriously and if you have confidence on yourself then it you will get power to say No to selfish people.
Example :
Suppose in office your colleague is selfish and if he wants to leave early and wants you to do his remaining work for the day and if your so much busy with your own work that's why your staying late in the night then you can imagine how much it will cost you, either you will be not able to complete your own work or you will be spending whole night in the office to finish his an your work and that too against your own will. Better to say No in this case than increasing your stress.
Selfish people always try to convince you :
Suppose after many months your taking leave and planned for holidays on beach. If any selfish person comes at you and asks you that can you help me in particular thing since your on leave. You should stand on your own plan. They will try 1000 tricks to convince you by telling you about there problems, limitations and how bad there luck is but still you have to stand by your plan and say NO. Dont feel guilty or sad because your saying no to them, feel confident about yourself that your working according to your plan and making yourself happy.You can say no to anything you want. As long as you know that sometimes, it okay to say no. You should never feel guilty for saying no when you have weighed the options and the outcome benefits everyone but you. It is not wrong to say no. So if you did nothing wrong, you have nothing to feel guilty about.
Silence :
This will work 100 percent of the time. It will also show you who your true friends really are. After you say no, say nothing. Don’t react, don’t argue, don’t say anything. It may sound mean but in this case, silence is golden. By not responding, it causes your adversary (for lack of a better word) to begin to look at you differently. At this point they are now reading you non-verbal communication, your body language to see if you are serious. By not responding, they cant take what you said the wrong way. Why? Because you didn’t say anything other then NO...
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Inspirational thoughts...
Here are some best inspirational thoughts :
"I'm not telling you it is going to be easy - I'm telling you it's going to be worth it" - Art Williams
"Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right.' Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along." - Napoleon Hill
"Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." - Dale Carnegie
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" - George Bernard Shaw
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." - Carl Bard
"A small trouble is like a pebble. Hold it too close to your eye and it fills the whole world and puts everything out of focus. Hold it at a proper distance and it can be examined and properly classified. Throw it at your feet and it can be seen in its true setting, just one more tiny bump on the pathway of life." - Celia Luce
"I'm not telling you it is going to be easy - I'm telling you it's going to be worth it" - Art Williams
"Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right.' Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along." - Napoleon Hill
"Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are." - Dale Carnegie
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" - George Bernard Shaw
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." - Carl Bard
"A small trouble is like a pebble. Hold it too close to your eye and it fills the whole world and puts everything out of focus. Hold it at a proper distance and it can be examined and properly classified. Throw it at your feet and it can be seen in its true setting, just one more tiny bump on the pathway of life." - Celia Luce
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Gods message...
After seeing this image...i was thinking about it..what message "GOD" wants to give to his fans...finally i am able to decode it...
Let others lead small lives,
But not you.
Let others argue over small things,
But not you.
Let others cry over small hurts,
But not you.
Let others sacrifice there dreams,
But not you.
Let others forget honesty,
But not you.
Let others leave their future,In someone Else's hands,
But not you...
But not you.
Let others argue over small things,
But not you.
Let others cry over small hurts,
But not you.
Let others sacrifice there dreams,
But not you.
Let others forget honesty,
But not you.
Let others leave their future,In someone Else's hands,
But not you...
Stress Management...
In today's fast life many employees undergo mental stress, every employee in an organization tries to show his/her performance in different way. More Positive the performance more is the success...simple mantra!! but for that you need to face tremendous amount of mental stress, that's why we need to control and manage the stress to achieve highest performance.
There are three types of people in every organization :
1. People who can do anything and everything
2. People who don't have any goals, "Time fillers" at work
3. The average performs, people who "swim" with the flow
and when these different kinds of people come together, its necessary for the manager to study there work habits and abilities and think about "Stress management".
While working in the team, all people don't have same "Stress", there are also three type of people in the team :
1. Boss Fearful - People who are fearsome of Boss, they just start shivering once they hear boss's name, they cant even talk with the boss.
2. Boss Addicts - People who do boss's work within the time, they try to follow every order given by boss within time, they are the A+ cards of the boss
3. Boss Warriors - People who can fool boss, they can find out defects in boss working style and get him in the trouble and after that they help boss to come out of that artificial trouble and try to impress him with this image
All these people undergo diffrent kinda stress levels,Whenever person is under stress, his body and behavior shows following signs :
1. Depression
2. Fatigue
3. Insomnia
4. Nightmares
5. Emotional instability
6. Avoiding food
7. Blood pressure and other diseases
8. Insecurity, caring, instability
9. Alcohol and drugs
10. Increase in smoking
Following are the tips or mantras to control and manage the stress -
A. Give priority to right tasks:
There is no one on the earth who is 100% complete at work. Analyze work in front of you, prioritize it and then try to do it, this will help you in managing the stress.
B. Task Listing :
Analyze daily work, make list of it, there are few things which are negative or you don't like, try to fit them in your "happy-slot",try to work on them positively.
C. Sleep :
Sleeping is a source to increase energy of your body. Correct sleep is more important than less or more sleep. Think about your days work before sleeping, get up early in the morning and go through days schedule, it will be fruitful.
D. Big "I" :
Organization runs coz of "me", everyone should follow "my" word, "I" am the one who drives the company...mistake guys, you should remove these kinds of feelings from your mind, there are many who are more brillient than you in the organization, keep this in your mind.
E. Excersise :
Have a habit of walking daily for half hour in a free air, it will reduce fear, instability etc and help you to stay happy. Yoga,Gym and Pranayam are very helpful "Tools" in managing the stress, use them.
F. Diet :
Avoid oily food, give preference to green vegetables and fruits, do enough breakfast, good lunh and light dinner at night.
G. Family first :
Give importance to family, Give time to your parents, husband/wife and children, have a good conversation with family whenevr you get time, have dinner together.
H. Life apart from work :
Be social, listen to good music, involve yourself in art,dancing,games, have passion for skill improvement in areas other than working. Those get involves in these things are more happier.
Its your work, your mind and your stress...try to manage it, then see..life is all yours !!
There are three types of people in every organization :
1. People who can do anything and everything
2. People who don't have any goals, "Time fillers" at work
3. The average performs, people who "swim" with the flow
and when these different kinds of people come together, its necessary for the manager to study there work habits and abilities and think about "Stress management".
While working in the team, all people don't have same "Stress", there are also three type of people in the team :
1. Boss Fearful - People who are fearsome of Boss, they just start shivering once they hear boss's name, they cant even talk with the boss.
2. Boss Addicts - People who do boss's work within the time, they try to follow every order given by boss within time, they are the A+ cards of the boss
3. Boss Warriors - People who can fool boss, they can find out defects in boss working style and get him in the trouble and after that they help boss to come out of that artificial trouble and try to impress him with this image
All these people undergo diffrent kinda stress levels,Whenever person is under stress, his body and behavior shows following signs :
1. Depression
2. Fatigue
3. Insomnia
4. Nightmares
5. Emotional instability
6. Avoiding food
7. Blood pressure and other diseases
8. Insecurity, caring, instability
9. Alcohol and drugs
10. Increase in smoking
Following are the tips or mantras to control and manage the stress -
A. Give priority to right tasks:
There is no one on the earth who is 100% complete at work. Analyze work in front of you, prioritize it and then try to do it, this will help you in managing the stress.
B. Task Listing :
Analyze daily work, make list of it, there are few things which are negative or you don't like, try to fit them in your "happy-slot",try to work on them positively.
C. Sleep :
Sleeping is a source to increase energy of your body. Correct sleep is more important than less or more sleep. Think about your days work before sleeping, get up early in the morning and go through days schedule, it will be fruitful.
D. Big "I" :
Organization runs coz of "me", everyone should follow "my" word, "I" am the one who drives the company...mistake guys, you should remove these kinds of feelings from your mind, there are many who are more brillient than you in the organization, keep this in your mind.
E. Excersise :
Have a habit of walking daily for half hour in a free air, it will reduce fear, instability etc and help you to stay happy. Yoga,Gym and Pranayam are very helpful "Tools" in managing the stress, use them.
F. Diet :
Avoid oily food, give preference to green vegetables and fruits, do enough breakfast, good lunh and light dinner at night.
G. Family first :
Give importance to family, Give time to your parents, husband/wife and children, have a good conversation with family whenevr you get time, have dinner together.
H. Life apart from work :
Be social, listen to good music, involve yourself in art,dancing,games, have passion for skill improvement in areas other than working. Those get involves in these things are more happier.
Its your work, your mind and your stress...try to manage it, then see..life is all yours !!
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Recession and happy life...
It's an interesting article by Yogesh Chhabria:
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the Lehman crisis. Spending money that they didn't have and going beyond their means is one of the main reasons for their situation today. In fact that is the cause for the current economic crisis in the US .
When I see all this happening, I can only remember the good old days. Then, karz (loan) was bad. People looked down upon those who took loans. Parents would not give their daughter's hand in marriage to a man with loans.
But of course, the times have changed now. Everyone I know has a loan. The buzz word is EMI (equated monthly installment) . Today, you can buy everything on EMI - a house, a television, an i-Pod. In fact I know of someone who just bought a fancy BMW 3 series on EMI, instead of buying a cheaper car outright with cash. I mostly prefer to take public transport, but then I am an old man with old thoughts!
Anyway, coming back to what caused the crisis. Imagine having Rs 200,000 in your bank account, no regular income, yet buying a house worth Rs 65 lakhs, in the hope of selling it for a higher price. Even if the price of the house fell by just 5 per cent (that is Rs 3 lakhs), you will go bankrupt. This is what Lehman Brothers did; with around USD 20 billion they went and bought assets worth over USD 600 billion. Isn't it suicidal and simply foolish?
I am sure things would have been different, had I been the head of Lehman brothers. But who wants an old conservative man like me to head a complex financial institution.
But there are a few lessons that we can learn:
1. Live a balanced life and avoid overspending.
2. Don't buy things we don't need.
3. Don't buy Branded goods.
4. Don't buy excess food, clothes, cosmetics, footwear, electronics and fashion accessories. Just think before you buy. The world still has a lot of growth ahead and the future holds immense opportunities for us. Let us make the most of it and save and invest it wisely instead of wasting our precious little on things we don't need.
5. Try to balance life with work (No one is happy to work in there professions) .
6. Don't stress out your self, after work try to do some extra activities like swimming, yoga, walking, running where you can divert your mind from stress.
A thumb rule: Health is more important than money.
7. Try to understand each other (Wife and Husband) in financial matters and help each other.
Tip: As soon as you get your monthly salary, set aside a fixed amount, usually 35 per cent, for insurance, savings and investments. You can then spend the rest.
8. Not all loans are bad. Loans that are 'need based' (home loans, education loans) can always find a place in your finances against those that are largely 'want based' (Credit cards, personal loans, car loans).
9. Borrow only if repayment is financially comfortable. A thumb rule: Keep EMIs within 35 to 45 per cent of your monthly income
In that respect, there is one American who I really respect - Warren Buffet. He has lived in the same ordinary house for over three decades, drives his own medium sized car and leads an extremely regular 'middle class' life. If that's all it takes for the richest person on earth to be happy, why do all of us need to take extra stress just so that we can get things which aren't even essential?
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the Lehman crisis. Spending money that they didn't have and going beyond their means is one of the main reasons for their situation today. In fact that is the cause for the current economic crisis in the US .
When I see all this happening, I can only remember the good old days. Then, karz (loan) was bad. People looked down upon those who took loans. Parents would not give their daughter's hand in marriage to a man with loans.
But of course, the times have changed now. Everyone I know has a loan. The buzz word is EMI (equated monthly installment) . Today, you can buy everything on EMI - a house, a television, an i-Pod. In fact I know of someone who just bought a fancy BMW 3 series on EMI, instead of buying a cheaper car outright with cash. I mostly prefer to take public transport, but then I am an old man with old thoughts!
Anyway, coming back to what caused the crisis. Imagine having Rs 200,000 in your bank account, no regular income, yet buying a house worth Rs 65 lakhs, in the hope of selling it for a higher price. Even if the price of the house fell by just 5 per cent (that is Rs 3 lakhs), you will go bankrupt. This is what Lehman Brothers did; with around USD 20 billion they went and bought assets worth over USD 600 billion. Isn't it suicidal and simply foolish?
I am sure things would have been different, had I been the head of Lehman brothers. But who wants an old conservative man like me to head a complex financial institution.
But there are a few lessons that we can learn:
1. Live a balanced life and avoid overspending.
2. Don't buy things we don't need.
3. Don't buy Branded goods.
4. Don't buy excess food, clothes, cosmetics, footwear, electronics and fashion accessories. Just think before you buy. The world still has a lot of growth ahead and the future holds immense opportunities for us. Let us make the most of it and save and invest it wisely instead of wasting our precious little on things we don't need.
5. Try to balance life with work (No one is happy to work in there professions) .
6. Don't stress out your self, after work try to do some extra activities like swimming, yoga, walking, running where you can divert your mind from stress.
A thumb rule: Health is more important than money.
7. Try to understand each other (Wife and Husband) in financial matters and help each other.
Tip: As soon as you get your monthly salary, set aside a fixed amount, usually 35 per cent, for insurance, savings and investments. You can then spend the rest.
8. Not all loans are bad. Loans that are 'need based' (home loans, education loans) can always find a place in your finances against those that are largely 'want based' (Credit cards, personal loans, car loans).
9. Borrow only if repayment is financially comfortable. A thumb rule: Keep EMIs within 35 to 45 per cent of your monthly income
In that respect, there is one American who I really respect - Warren Buffet. He has lived in the same ordinary house for over three decades, drives his own medium sized car and leads an extremely regular 'middle class' life. If that's all it takes for the richest person on earth to be happy, why do all of us need to take extra stress just so that we can get things which aren't even essential?
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