Is your glass half-empty or half-full? How you answer this age-old question may reflect your outlook on life and whether you're optimistic or pessimistic...Be positive: Live longer, live healthier we have heard this many times but have we applied this in our life??...i think no...
every time anything happens around you...Our mind always talks with himself..we can call it a Self-talk. It's the endless stream of thoughts that run through your head every day. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you're likely an optimist....some negative thoughts if your employee then...why am not getting much needed recognition at work even if i am doing my job best? why boss never gives compliment for my work? why he always neglects me? why everybody in my team is selfish? the friend whom i trust blindly at work is not trustable anymore...why he is also selfish????
Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information...
if you clear out misconceptions and irrational thinking and challenge them with rational, positive thoughts, your self-talk will gradually become realistic and self-affirming...
following things usually happen -
You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all of the positive ones. For example, you had a great day at work. You completed your tasks ahead of time and were complimented for doing a speedy and thorough job. But you forgot one minor step. That evening, you focus only on your oversight and forget about the compliments you received...
When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself. For example, you hear that an evening out with friends is canceled and you assume that the change in plans is because no one wanted to be around you.
You automatically anticipate the worst. You refuse to go out with friends for fear that you'll make a fool of yourself. Or one change in your daily routine leads you to think the day will be a disaster.
You see things only as either good or bad, or black and white. There is no middle ground. You feel that you have to be perfect or you're a total failure.
You see everybody is selfish around you. everybody want to make you unhappy including the people who are always with you in your good and bad times.
You can learn to turn negative thoughts into positive ones. The process is simple, but it takes time...Throughout the day, stop and evaluate what you're thinking. If you find that your thoughts are negative, try to find a way to put a positivity in them.
few examples :
There's no way it will work - I can try to make it work.
It's good enough - There's always room for improvement.
I am not going to get any better at this. - I will give it one more try.
Everybody is selfish here - i will talk with them and check whether there is any misunderstanding.
If you tend to have a negative outlook, don't expect to become an optimist overnight. But eventually your self-talk will automatically contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance...well there is one line in song from TPZ...
"Hum jaise dekhe ye jahan hai waisahi...jaisi najar apni...khulke sochon aao..pankh jara failao..rang naye bikhrao...chalo chalo naye khwab bunalein..."!! :)
